What is an attachment? Are you aware of your own attachments? In the dictionaries, attachment is usually linked to feelings of fondness and eagerness. But what is its background? Do your attachments create any pain or suffering?
Attachment is a bond — a real, emotional bond — to a thing, to a person/being, or to a belief/idea. We create our reality based on what we hear from others, what we gain as knowledge throughout our education, and what we see around us. Very often we create our reality based on our circumstances and on the ideas we believe in. Sometimes, these are barriers to finding our ways of being happy.
Initially, an attachment develops from the sense of fondness towards something or someone. This fondness gives us pleasure, fulfillment and happiness. It fills some gap within us. Unfortunately, such a happiness does not last. We require it again and again, even in larger doses (every attachment is addictive).
Can some attachments be good? Yes, as long as they do not cause pain and suffering. For example, one many have an attachment towards knowledge, and strives to learn new things and to have new experiences. As long as the attachment does not hurt you or hinder you, it can be considered good. But be aware of the fine line.
Losing things we are attached to creates pain. Desiring something that is out of reach brings suffering. When you are attached to a person (friend, spouse, parent), separation from that person is painful. But the most dangerous attachment is that to ideas, beliefs and knowledge. It is very difficult to acknowledge that we are attached to our belief system and mindset. They are a part of our conditioning. We are limited by our own beliefs. We do not even realize that we are attached to our believes and, as a result, we get stuck in a situation.
People tend to stay in toxic relationships due to their attachments. They may not even realize that the situation they are in no longer serves them. They may be victims of a limiting belief that there is no other solution but to remain tolerant. There is always a possibility for a change. However, many people resist a change, lack courage to change.
Every single person who comes into your life is a teacher. You need to use the opportunity to learn a lesson. Nothing is an accident. Take the lesson, and then find the courage to change and move on. Do not fight the change. It is important to transcend the situation. But how to let it go? Meditation is the answer.
In attachments, we lose out freedom, we give our power away. Open your awareness, your senses, your mind, your entire being, to everything that happens inside and outside of you.
The first step is to identify what your attachments are. Sit in meditation and clear your mind. Find out the sources of your suffering, and acknowledge them. The second step is to go deep into meditation, and clear your space. Ask for healing and help from your masters and Light Beings that are guiding you. Finally, make a change, do not be afraid, and be consistent in moving forward. Unbind yourself. Drop everything that no longer adds any value to your life.
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Denisa Ionica is a certified mindfulness teacher, mindfulness meditation practitioner, reiki practitioner, personal development coach, international motivational speaker, a Board member of PMSS International, a humanitarian and a relentless promoter & guardian of holistic wellbeing. She is a PMSS meditation master in charge of Belgium and Romania. She has been trained in the USA and India by Brahmarshi Patriji, Brahma Kumaris and many Tibetan monks. She lives in Belgium and works for the EU Research Council. She has been conducting meditation classes and workshops on personal development at the European Commission and in various international meditation networks.